"Disclosing my HIV status has helped me get this far. I believe that whenever you have a challenge in life you can use it to get to the next level."
"Because I'm so open about it I'll get people disclose their status to me. The conversations are normally quite sweet, quite endearing and a lovely part of friendship"
"I’m on treatment and undetectable so I know I wasn’t a risk to him. I tried to muster up the courage to disclose but I just couldn’t."
"There's no perfect answer--we've been grappling with this for years because there is no one right day, right time, right environment to make a disclosure"
"Being up front with my status has made my online engagements a whole lot more positive."
"When I’m open about my PrEP use often people living with HIV will disclose their status to me. And that’s a real privilege."
We ended up holding a little forum in the pub and it was mind-blowing...people aren't as closed off as we can believe.
I continue to motivate people to disclose their status, because this is life, and life is too amazing to be negative.
25 years later, that disclosure of HIV to be specific, is always unpredictable, always exciting, sometimes scary but I will never stop doing it.
I sought after some support from friends and family and organisations as well, to actually get better informed, to actually sit down in front of my family and tell them exactly what I had.
Once I did disclose my status to him, I said it really quickly and hung up, and then I would not answer his phone call because in my mind I’m thinking he would never want to date me, he don’t want to have anything to do with me.
Only recently, after decades, I posted my on Facebook my status and all I got was love.
The lesson that I learned from that is that you have to let people in your life, you know, I was so afraid of letting people in my life because I lived in isolation and shame and my mom taught me that I didn’t have to do that and so thank you mom, I love you.
Once you tell the person, sometimes you are helping the other person, because some of them are shy.
I want to share my experience on when my sister disclosed to me that she was HIV positive. She told at a time when she was really sick and by that time HIV was not really talked about in our country.
When I disclosed my status on my family, I was chased away from my home.
“Well have you got it?" and I said "Well yeah I am living with HIV, I got a diagnosis about 9 months ago" and he went "Oooh, so you are going to die from this then?" and I said “No I have absolutely no intention of dying from this. I'm going to be living with this and living very well”.
It was a really difficult thing because of you know all the public perception around HIV and it makes it really difficult to sort of take that plunge and tell people.